Should I care?
I'm feeling ambivalent. At first I had a bit of a giggle, but overnight I have thought more about it. It's a real statement, I mean why bother? I am wondering what prompted it. Maybe it is about a Facebook purge like suggested here. Maybe, there is an internal O family war going on that I don't know about? I figure it has to do with sibling relationships rather than me, but I still want to know. These are my boys family after all.
I don't have sisters and the Workaholics have always been a mystery to me. It seems so complicated. They have such an ebb and flow of battles, full on wars, silent brooding, gossip, jealousies and weird loyalties in times of crisis. It's like some secret club I can't join. I may have been around for 24+ years but I am definitely not one of THEM.
My family are very open and COMMUNICATE with each other if there is a problem. We don't do misunderstandings. We confront it head on and clear it up before it becomes an issue.
They really are a family of miscommunication, misunderstandings, intrigue, gossip and jealousy. They are competitive. They are not supportive of each other. I simply don't understand it.
I am sorting out my boys birthday parties this week. The Munchkin turns two at the end of the month and then the Little Man turns five at the end of October. We have a party for each of them every year because that's how the Workaholic wants it (a sign of his birthday party deprived childhood, he tells me). So last night I thought I'd send my sister in law, who has boys the same age, a quick message about the dates so she could put them in her diary and let the others know for me (they have older kids). That's when I realised that she had defriended me on Facebook. I commented on something she posted earlier in the week so I know it was done recently. I had a quick flick through my friends list and noticed a cousin she sees regularly had also defriended me and another sister in law has never accepted my friend request (Nice, really classy).
So, do I care? Should I care? What happens now? Do I still invite them to the birthday parties? Do I ring and confront the issue or do I brush it under the carpet like they usually do? It is just so passive aggressive. I mean even writing this and not confronting it is passive aggressive, so I guess that answers my question.
I am going to confront it head on.
What would you do?